How to Convince an Indecisive Customer to Say Yes


Do you know these 3 principles of persuasion?

My phone’s front cover is in bad shape.

The tempered glass is broken. The screen has cracks everywhere, a scratchy surface, and a blurry display. My daughters chide me about its decay. And what’s worse is the shame I feel. I don’t show pictures to my friends because I fear their judgment.

My phone is a mess. And can you fully explain how gigantic a turtle is without a photo to verify its size? Especially if you discovered the reptile while walking in your ordinary neighborhood?

I’m avoiding fixing it. I guess I’m resigned to its flaws.

On the positive side, I can still …

  • Text messages
  • Read emails
  • Listen to podcasts

But I don’t like to view pictures, look up information, or watch short documentaries on my phone. I wait and do those tasks on my computer.

Using My Phone has Become a Real Pain

I recently returned home after a spring break road trip with my daughter. Lots of driving. We unload the dusty Honda CRV (aka a modern-day, beefed-up station wagon) and dump the bags in the entryway. There is no space to even walk among the belongings.

“Anybody see the manila folder labeled “Urgent Tasks”? I ask our housecats. No response.

I dig through a crate, hoping to find the file. Instead, I find an unopened pack of screen protectors for my phone.

Do you suppose finding the pack is a sign?

‘Cause while we were on the road, my phone became dangerous to my health. When I’d touch the screen, my fingertips would scrape along the rough edges. Ouch! Scrolling my news feed had been mentally painful for months – now reading the news is physically ouchy as well.

It’s called a screen protector, not a fingertip slasher.

Soooo, finding the pack is a nudge to act.

[I’m putting my writing on pause.]

Okay, I did it. I removed the damaged screen protector and applied a new one.

And ta-da …

The view is sparkling and crystal clear. And pain-free!

We live in bubbles of our own making

Looking back, the broken phone screen was such a nuisance. I wish I had fixed it earlier. I was stuck in status-quo land.

I think we tend to stick to status quo. Order the same dish at our favorite restaurant. Buy the same brand of socks to replace our old ones. Copy and paste the same marketing messages we’ve used in an earlier campaign.

It’s familiar. It’s safe. It’s a coping mechanism, perhaps.

What if you could have both –> proven principles of persuasion AND fresh copy?

Applying the Secrets of The Science of Persuasion

My daughter is graduating from Rochester Institute of Technology (RIT). I received a well-written email from RIT. It an excellent example of masterful copy.

Copywriters at RIT know their stuff. They demonstrate using persuasion principles effectively.

The copywriter applied three principles from Secrets of The Science of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini & Steve Martin. Plus other copywriting techniques.

Why should you care? Because I took action on the offer, and I wasn’t intending to. Here’s how you can influence your customer to respond with a “yes” …

Last Chance to Honor Your Graduate with a Pin!

I was brainstorming ideas for recognizing my daughter and making her graduation day memorable. In the midst of shopping for her graduation gift, I received this email.

Rochester Institute of Technology email to parents of graduates

Were the RIT Annual Giving team members reading my mind?

Why this was a good email:

  • Applied the scarcity principle by emphasizing lack of time
  • Tailored subject line – topic I cared about and stressed urgency
  • Delivered email at appropriate time

Principle of Scarcity

When you position the offer as scarce, people want it more. It’s called the Scarcity Principle. The email expressed time to order was becoming scarce. The subject line highlighted how I would miss out if I didn’t buy now. The email contained versions of “time is almost up.”

“People want more of those things they can have less of.”

Using Scarcity for Persuasion

“It’s not enough simply to tell people about the benefits they’ll gain if they choose your products and services. You’ll also need to point out what is unique about your proposition and what they stand to lose if they fail to consider your proposal.” – Robert Cialdini

  • Subject line with “Last Chance …” not only showed urgency, but also was specific to me “Your Graduate …”
  • Headline started with “Don’t Miss This …”

The messages were also effective because I recognized RIT name in my inbox. The branded email looked familiar. Since I know the email’s origin, I knew it wasn’t spam. RIT had earned my trust with consistent, helpful emails.


The love affair began earlier …

I enjoy reading RIT’s Parent and Family Newsletter. I’ve praised their email copy in a previous article. The RIT team makes me feel like they are writing to me personally. See how they do it here.


Principle of Reciprocity

“Simply put, people are obliged to give back to others the form of a behavior, gift, or service that they have received first.”

Embroidered neckware for dogs created by Sue Barry
Samples of Sue Barry’s handiwork. She personalizes and gives neckware to her clients.

Using Reciprocity for Persuasion

Here’s an example of reciprocity. My friend, Sue, recently started a dog sitting business. Being multitalented, she creates a special gift for every customer. Each dog receives a custom-made bandana personalized with the pet’s name. She makes these gifts because she enjoys making arts and crafts. Plus, she loves spreading kindness to others. 😊

She’s using a secret from the science of persuasion in an unexpected way.

Dog wearing a customized embroidered bandana.
A lucky dog wears a custom embroidered bandana created by Sue Barry.

In the RIT email, Victor offered me a gift of a personalized Digital Yearbook Ad or Tiger Paw Spirit. I perceived the gift as personalized and unexpected. His gesture motivated me to give back.

To see your college student’s name and picture on 440-square-foot LED video screen makes a parent swell with pride, wouldn’t you agree? So proud! [Acknowledgment: I rewrote ten versions of the personalized Digital Yearbook Ad. She’s the oldest, therefore, the first to graduate. I had to get the message perfect.]

Keep in mind, for this principle, it’s not just sharing a generic gift. Your thoughtfulness and initiative are required. Robert Cialdini says be the first to give. He also suggests how you present the gift matters. Think about their preferences.

What’s their love language? Do they like words of affirmation? So tell them sincere compliments along with the gift.

Think about how they will perceive the behavior. Some people will feel the compliment is insincere. They may value actions instead of words. Perhaps a customer referral is the gesture they’ll appreciate. Recommend them to a customer you think is a good fit. And don’t forget to alert your customer. You’re supporting two parties:

  1. Helping a business grow
  2. Connecting a person to a company that will satisfy their needs


Thank you for your generosity landing page

Rochester Institute of Technology thank you landing page

Why this was a good landing page:

  • Displayed no stock photos
  • Informed me to check my email for next steps
  • Offered options to easily engage with brand — conveniently displayed on one landing page
  • Set up a quick way to give a video testimonial
  • Sent from an actual person
  • Used Social Proof

Principle of Social Proof

“Especially when they are uncertain, people will look to the actions and behaviors of others to determine their own.”

Using Social Proof

After I contributed, a landing page popped up. The messages thanked me, as thank you landing pages do. But the copywriter inserted some social proof as well.

“You’re officially part of something special with 371 other people.”

See the sentence circled in orange in the image below. By sharing the number of people donating in real time, I felt like I was part of a larger impact. I also felt validation. Because my peers (fellow parents) contributed, I found the cause worth contributing to. I also gained a sense of belonging — like I was doing an action others believed in as well.

Rochester Institute of Technology thanking donors for the RIT Give Campaign

I was open to giving because of the trust the RIT team had built. I perceived they were reliable because they delivered regular, consistent messaging over four years. And here’s the kicker — the messages didn’t feel like marketing. More like a kind gesture.

A thoughtful, generous moment shared between university fundraising staff and a proud parent.

RIT copywriters integrated evidence-based copywriting principles, including principles from Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert B. Cialdini, a book helping writers be more influential.

So you could read the book, and I certainly recommend that you do. Or you could just save yourself the trouble and hire someone like me who understands the principles … and sees the secrets revealed in marketing every day.

Open Discussion

  • What is one action you wish you had done sooner?
  • What gifts you’ve received from a company that were meaningful?
  • What gift would you love to receive from your favorite company?

Post your comments below.

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About Shannan Seely

B2B and Healthcare Digital Copywriter 📝 | Website, landing pages and email copy expert

Steal Like an Email Copywriter

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Get inspiration from your inbox to reignite your enthusiasm for writing emails

This article is filled with gratitude to the office staff at the Parent and Family Programs at Rochester Institute of Technology. Here’s the story …

We moved our oldest daughter, Claire, to the college dorm last month. She’s enrolled at Rochester Institute of Technology (RIT) in Rochester, NY. And I feel like she was prepared, and we were prepared because of the Parent and Family Programs staff.

Well, true, Claire was organized. She kept her parents on track, but RIT was a positive influence.

Let me explain.

Initially, my husband and I scoffed at the emails we were receiving from RIT. Oh, this message is meant for helicopter parents. Adults who monitor their teenagers 24 / 7. Parents who are resisting the transition of their parenting role. Less micromanagement, more shifting responsibilities to their child.

Their boy or girl is a young adult, whether the parents are ready or not. Eventually, their child will need to do his or her own laundry.  

But then we – okay, actually me, because I’m the one who reads the emails – came across information I didn’t know.

Valuable Information

The message recommended checking your health insurance to determine what coverage your student will have when they move to Rochester. Some health insurance plans have limited out-of-network coverage. Turned out, she needed in-state health insurance coverage for her out-of-state college student status. And the emails informed us about the options.

Thanks to the emails from RIT Parent and Family Programs, we learned this before she started college. My husband signed her up with the appropriate insurance. Yayy! Peace of mind. For her. For us.

I’m in the Parents of RIT Club

I continued to feel the emails were useful. Stuff I wanted to know. I felt like the emails were written to me personally. But I know I was one of thousands of subscribers.

Write as if you’re emailing one good friend, because that’s how people will get to know you, like you, and trust you. Henneke Duistermaat

How did the staff make me feel like they were writing exclusively to me? And why does this matter? Because you can learn from RIT’s emails. Even if you’re in healthcare, pharma or business-to-business. Because RIT completely looks at the reader experience. (I know, I know, they are a high-tech design school. But bear with me.)

You can do what they do. And your subscribers will be grateful.

Continue reading Steal Like an Email Copywriter

Three Tips You Can Use Today to Break the “Curse of Knowledge”

Have you been the new kid on the block, so to speak?

If so, you can probably relate to the dilemma we faced when we moved from Kansas to Central New Jersey four years ago. We needed to learn in only three days the ins and outs of attending a New Jersey public school. Our two daughters would be enrolling in an intermediate school and an elementary school.

So we went online. We visited the school district’s website.

This is what we saw:

Where do we navigate first?

The website is not designed for a novice to the New Jersey public school system.

Where’s the Parent’s Handbook? What will I find in the Parent Portal? Where do I find information about how to prepare for the first day of school? How do I know the information I find here is updated? Some of the text states “Updated on Sept. 15, 2010.”

I felt lost.

The website creators did not have me in mind. They were unaware what the customer experience would be for a profile like me: a new parent of the school, new to New Jersey, with two children.

Website creators assumed visitors will have the same level of understanding that the creators have. But we didn’t.

Chip and Dan Heath call this assumption the Curse of Knowledge. In their book, Made to Stick: Why Some Ideas Survive and Others Die, the New York Times bestselling authors state this natural psychological tendency happens when we assume everyone has the same level of knowledge as we do.

“Once we know something, we find it hard to imagine what it was like not to know it. Our knowledge has ‘cursed’ us. And it becomes difficult for us to share our knowledge with others, because we can’t readily re-create our listeners’ state of mind,” wrote Chip and Dan Heath.

Here are three ways business owners and marketing agency directors suffer from the Curse of Knowledge and how to combat it: Continue reading Three Tips You Can Use Today to Break the “Curse of Knowledge”

How to Write Better Email

Efail = When You Send a Poorly Written Email

“Your e-mail messages are often the primary means people use to form their opinions about you.”
Mignon Fogarty, Grammar Girl

Good communication is my work, but you wouldn’t know it based on my email blunders this past month. I was trying to be quick and efficient, but I goofed. Inserted wrong dates, misspelled words, skewed the text font, placed two periods in a sentence — errors I noticed after I hit “send.” Oops. In one message. the punctuation and grammar were correct, but the message was muddled. The recipient wasn’t going to understand it. Only a phone call will resolve the confusion. Know how hard it is to reach a busy person by phone?

Is an email useful if no one opens and reads it? Or if a person opens the email, reads it, but doesn’t understand it? Then we begin a chain of email volleyball in clarifying the original thought – culminating in time wasted – frustration ensued – and energy consumed in resolving the miscommunication.

I call poorly written emails efails. I’ve done it.

I’ve also received some efails.

Have you committed some efails?

If you want to do better, this post is for you. I dug in and did the research. I started using these tips last week. Let me share what I’ve learned that will help you write better email. Continue reading How to Write Better Email